It's Time to Come Out of Hiding

Children hide when they’re afraid. They go where they feel most safe. Even if that means standing in the middle of a room with their eyes closed. As long as they can’t see what’s happening, then it won’t be real. Magick wants you to look around where it is you are. Are you where you want to be? Are you happy? Magick wants you to take a peek at what’s happening within your heart. It’s time to visit what you’ve been avoiding. It’s time to speak to your inner child and let it know it’s time to come out of hiding.

Magick wants you to know that this is a safe space. Here, the child within you is safe to emerge. There’s no one here to harm you, anymore. You don’t need to feel scared. The people who harmed you no longer have the power to do so. Magick wants you to know you’re no longer alone, either. Magick is here to guide you, to ensure you come out of hiding and flourish.

Magick wants to show you how to heal your wounded heart from the abuse you suffered as a child. Unless, of course you want to leave your inner child in that darkened space within you? Being left alone in the dark for too long, will stunt your growth. If your inner child has been in hiding, then it’s possible you aren’t living your life the way you imagined it to be. Magick wants you to come out of hiding, so you can live your life with the freedom to be yourself.

If you were abused as a child, then your inner child may still be hiding somewhere inside of you. Afraid to come out into the light in case they’re attacked. Even if you feel safe in your current physical environment the effects of child abuse can linger into adulthood. Child abuse is anything that made you feel afraid to be you. Child abuse is anything that confused you about who it is you are. Child abuse is being a victim to someone who mistreated your innocent heart.

Fear causes a person to pause. Fear causes a person to run. Fear causes a person to hide. If your inner child experienced fear at the hand of another, then you didn’t get the chance to grow fully into the person you are meant to be. If your inner child froze in place, ran, or hid and no one came to find you, then you’re probably lost with who it is you truly are. Children are meant to be happy and grow up into happy adults.

The inner child’s growth can be stunted at the age it was traumatized. What isn’t nurtured in life doesn’t grow into its full potential. You can’t see if someone suffered child abuse by looking at them because the physical body continues growing. Yet, their inner child doesn’t. A person may look mature on the outside, however underneath is a person who is immature and insecure. Pain causes distractions from being happy and when wanting to hide your pain, people create coping mechanisms. For instance, the funniest people sometimes are the ones who are hurting the most within. They hide their pain and fears behind the mask of being funny. So no one will notice they are in-fact, sad.

Magick wants you to understand that any type of abuse is horrible. Abuse is never acceptable. Whether that be on children, on adults or on animals, too. Abusers target children because children are easy to control when fear is used upon them. An adult who suffered abuse as a child can remain the victim of an abuser long after their abuser has left them. This is where their inner child went into hiding and didn’t come back out. Adults who perpertrate abuse towards the vulnerable are usually victims of child abuse, too. The abused becomes the abuser. Almost like, “it happened to me, so I'm going to take it out on you,” mentality. This is the mind of an immature person who is insecure. Where their inner child didn’t grow. The cycle of abuse repeats until it’s broken. Breaking the curse of abuse takes one person to stand up and refuse to repeat it. This occurs when the abused chooses to heal.

The following example gives a view of how a child’s inner child can be nurtured or made to hide. Magick wants you to notice how much influence an adult holds over a vulnerable child when the child makes a simple mess.

Six year old Johnny is playing with his large collection of toy cars. Johnny has created an entire racing event today. He’s lined up his favourite cars based on how fast he thinks they can move. Johnny creates an entire dialogue and picture in his head, where all of his cars come to life before him. Johnny is living in the moment and is having fun. While Johnny was playing, his mom brought in his lunch. Johnny was too distracted to notice the glass of milk his mom set beside him.

As the last race of the day is about to begin, Johnny holds two of the fastest cars in each of his hands. Johnny shouts, “On your mark, get set…,” but before he can say, “Go” Johnny accidentally knocks the glass of milk over. It spills all over the carpet. He forgets the race and grabs a nearby blanket to clean up the spilled milk.

When Johnny’s mom returns to collect his dishes, she notices the wet spot on the carpet. Johnny’s mom has few ways she can handle this situation. The examples are shown below.

1. She can scream at Johnny for making a mess. Scolding him for not being careful. She could hit him and take away his toy cars to punish him for being so clumsy, too.

2. She can ask Johnny what happened? She can hear how he tells her he was so distracted he didn’t see the milk. He can tell her he was a big boy and cleaned it up, himself. Johnny’s mom can yell at him for wiping the milk into the carpet with his clean blanket. Which she knows made more of a mess. She can also berate Johnny for not getting a wet soapy cloth as that is the only way to clean up spilled milk.

3. Or she can understand her young son did a good thing. He tried his best to clean up a mess he made on his own. She can give Johnny a word of encouragement by saying, “Good job,” for cleaning up the mess he made.

In the three examples given, there is much to see how Johnny’s mom responds to Johnny’s accident and how it will impact his mental health and well-being. In the first example, if Johnny’s mom abuses him for making the mess and scolds him for making it worse, Johnny will not understand what he did wrong. He will feel confused because he didn’t mean to spill the milk. He was just having fun. Johnny will learn that having fun can result in him getting hurt.

In the second example, Johnny’s mom can see how her young son was doing his best to resolve the issue. She could be mad he made a mess and berate him for not knowing how to clean it properly, ultimately teaching Johnny he doesn't know how to do anything right.

In the third example, Johnny’s mom could self-reflect that she shouldn’t have left a glass of milk so close to him, in the first place. She shouldn’t have placed it on the carpet beside him because he was involved in his game. Even though Johnny’s mom will need to deep-clean the carpet so it won’t stink, she doesn’t need to berate Johnny for making a mess that she put him in. By Johnny’s mom understanding her part in Johnny making a mess, she is gentle in her approach with him. After all, he’s just a small boy.

The fact that Johnny’s mom won’t yell at him for making a mistake teaches Johnny that mistakes happen and there’s no need to stress over them. Johnny will grow up with self-confidence because he knows he’s capable of fixing any messes or mistakes that he makes.

Reflecting back to the first example, if Johnny’s mom severely punishes him, Johnny might grow up to become skittish when trying to have fun. If his mom hits him or yells at him every time he makes a mistake then he will soon be scared to step out of place. He might not engage in fun activities where his imagination runs wild. He’ll learn to bottle-up his emotions to protect himself. Not to mention, his confidence will suffer too.

This will also affect how Johnny plays with others. What if Johnny plays with a friend and his friend makes a mess of his room? Johnny will be scared of what his mom may do to him, so Johnny will take his fear out on his friend. Do you see how easily fear spreads from one person to another?

Children suffer at the hands of adults or children can thrive at the hands of an adult. If you grew up in an environment where you were punished for being a kid, then your inner-child is in need of your help. Adults are supposed to be trusting, understanding, loving, kind and safe. Sadly, not all children grow up with these types of adults in their life. Magick wants you to know that it’s not too late to heal that scared inner child within you. It’s safe to come out of hiding. Start by acknowledging, it wasn’t you that was the problem. It was the adult who abused their power over you.

Holding onto uncomfortable memories you suffered as a child is an unhealthy way of punishing yourself for any mistakes you may have made. Unpleasant memories and experiences at a young age are not your fault. Children are clumsy and children are naturally loving. Children are generous and children treat everyone equally, too. It’s the adults that mess with the natural love a child possesses.

Magick says, “It’s time to come out of hiding. It’s time to heal. It’s time to become who you always wanted to be. It’s not too late. You’re not too old. The time hasn’t passed. You haven’t missed anything. You can relive your childhood. You can replace ugly memories with new ones. You can do anything you want. You can play again. Most of all, you can make a mess and clean it up the way you know how.”

It can feel scary or overwhelming to deal with a memory so bad that you don’t want to address it. However, it has to be let out. You must set yourself free. Holding onto memories of pain keeps you prisoner to them. Magick wants you to know, everyone makes mistakes. Especially children and those adults whose inner child is still afraid and in hiding.

Johnny did his best to clean up the milk he spilled. He didn’t do a good job, but at least he tried. As an adult, if Johnny spills milk on the carpet, he will appreciate how gentle, loving and kind his mom truly was. For Johnny knows you cannot get milk out of the carpet just by rubbing a blanket over it. Removing spilled milk on carpet requires soap and water. Maybe using a carpet cleaner, too. Johnny did his best to wipe up the spilled milk and he fixed the problem. Or at least he tried. His mom had to help. You can fix whatever problem you feel you have created, alone or you can have magick help you?

The first-step to healing your inner child is by telling your inner child it’s okay to come out of hiding. Let’s reference the process as pulling off the lid and how bandaids work. The lid is what you’ve used to protect your heart as a child. Taking off the lid might feel blinding at first. For being hidden in the dark for so long, one isn’t used to seeing the light. Magick will help you each and every step of the way, so you won’t go blind. Now let's look at how taking off the lid is similar to removing a bandaid on a skinned knee. If the bandaid has been on the skin for too long, the glue is going to stick to the skin and maybe the scab beneath. Pulling off a bandaid can be stressful for the child. It might hurt if some hair has been caught on the glue too.

There’s a few ways to remove a stuck bandaid. The child can rip the bandaid off, taking the chance it’ll hurt and they might bleed. If doing it this way, the child can hold an adult's hand while they pull the bandaid off. Or the child can sit in a warm bath. Once the bandaid is wet, it’s easier to peel off. Lastly, this is where the magick is. The bandaid comes off naturally in the bath water without anyone forcing it.

Magick can and will work with whatever strategy you feel is best for you. Magick can be there if you want to throw open the lid in one swoop. Magick can hold your hand while you do it. Magick can give you the tools (like bath water) to gently nudge the lid up so you can safely pry it open. Or magick can make you so comfortable in taking off the lid that you don’t even notice it's open, until it is.

The choice is yours. No matter which way you open the lid, magick will be there to support, guide and protect you. Magick will work with you in helping you heal the pain you experienced as a child. Whether it be by writing your thoughts in a journal, running, meditating, screaming at the wall, sleeping, reading or watching movies. One way or another, magick will have those hurts bubble up to the surface and remove them without you feeling a thing. It truly is this easy to heal all the wounding you have ever experienced. Your healing can be instant or take as long as you need. The speed in which you recover is entirely up to you.

You may wonder why magick didn’t help you while you suffered the painful moments as they happened? Magick wasn’t able to help you in those stressful moments because you didn’t call upon magick for help. Magick needs your permission to help you. Johnny didn’t ask his mom for help to clean up the spilled milk, he felt capable of doing it on his own. However, Johnny’s mom still had to help him because he didn’t get all the milk out. You can try healing on your own without the help of magick. The choice is always yours to make. Johnny’s mom had to deep clean the carpet after Johnny’s failed attempt, yet when she was finished the carpet smelled fresher than before. You too can be cleaned up with the help of magick. Imagine how clean magick will succeed in getting you by removing all the pain and suffering in life you’ve endured.

Whatever trauma you carry within that has damaged your health and well-being, you hold the power to heal. The illusion of having no power is just that, an illusion. A strict parent might hold power over a child, but there comes a time in life where you need to recognize you’re no longer a child. You no longer need to suffer at the hands of an adult who was unable to nurture and fully love you. It’s time to come out of hiding. You are ready.

Magick wants you to understand and believe that all thoughts, actions, deeds, inaction, any errors you have made along the path of your life can be fixed. You can grow in a new direction in your life every, single, day. Everyone loves a clean slate. A fresh start to try again. Ask magick to help you open the lid, so your inner child can come out, stretch, and enjoy life to your true heart's desire.